Not once but twice, we bless the couple that they should become “beloved friends.” Make sure you’re friends first and then lovers.A lover who is not your friend can easily hurt you. And if they do, they will make every effort to repair the hurt, just like you do with your best friends.Over the past five years, hundreds of questions consistently revolve around the same themes. How can I be a witness to my friends and still be accepted? What’s dangerous or wrong with being physical before marriage? Why is it so hard to be consistent in the Christian life as a teenager? What is appropriate and modest clothing for a Christian and why? This is what our young adults are seeking to understand. This is what holds them back spiritually, emotionally, etc.If you are a parent or youth worker, this list might help you get into their heads. Thankfully, God’s Word has answers to every issue—and it’s up to us to apply His truth and make it come alive.
This type of “love” is not a good reason to get married, but friendship is. Real love is about giving to and caring about another person’s life. This question is extremely important and often difficult to answer, especially if a relationship has already become too physical.Recently, I posted about our Q&A times with students at teen camps and retreats. (one way in church, another way at home, dad on the internet) How do you avoid wrong influences when you live with them? How do you take a stand with your friends/what do you do when you have a friend that is becoming rebellious? How do you separate from bad friends without hurting them or making them think you’re stuck up? These questions reveal a lot of real life issues and a strong desire to know “why” or “how.” As adults, we ignore this list to our own detriment.When you start thinking that he/she may be the one, make sure you ask these ten questions before you tie the knot.#1: Do We Care about Each Other as Good Friends Do?Every year my church hosted a singles retreat in Destin, Florida on Labor Day weekend.