—Boys learn to chase girls in high school and college.
Those early teen experiences shape much of the way men think about relationships.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.
At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex.
In the calculus of relationships, people figure out their own worth, and then effectively try to engage with someone of equivalent or better value.
This works quite well for the procreation of the species.
Talking to many women like her, it’s intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren’t ready.
American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ”intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind”. I see a poetic yet depressing symmetry in this: the women who rejected the introverted, budding alpha in their 20s now seek them in their 30s—but can’t have them because they’re dating younger, more attractive versions of themselves. Courtship really is a petri dish of evolutionary psychology.
But for other men, those who have either not been married by their 40s or are facing a post divorce life in their 40s, there’s a lot of good news that they need to know about.
If the man you are dating is not on the same page, you'll show him the door. In your 20s, going out to parties was a way of being active and always having a cool story to share with your friends.
But perhaps you're over that and that's why women in their 30s prefer to stay in, drink a glass of wine, and call it a night.
The perspective of your inner "self" changes, your self-esteem does not depend on other people, and you definitely know what you want.
Therefore, if someone wants to mess with your tranquility they should have a really good reason or simply get out of your life.