Way to state the obvious and waste your digital calling card. He was due some leave from his unspecified nautical job in three months, and could we “meet up and see how things progress? There were plenty more from those who clearly weren't a good match – guys in the 50 plus age bracket, guys who lived in Australia, guys who were saving their first kiss for marriage.
There was also a serious sense of humour failure, as if the men on there were worried that “being a bit funny” is the work of Satan and no self-respecting Christian would dare make a joke. At least Public Praying Man made it to the dating stage – but his penchant for saying grace out loud made me feel, as many of the men's profiles did, that I wasn't Christian enough to go out with a Christian.
Scrolling through Christian Connection, the most popular UK Christian dating site, profile after profile said almost nothing about the men in question.
Instead said blokes had chosen to write strings of generic proclamations about how much they loved the Lord. I was getting that vibe already guys, considering you've chosen to join a religious dating site. He was writing from the waters off the coast of Canada, and wondered if I'd wait for him.
What with more female churchgoers than men, the odds are already stacked against women and sometimes you have no choice but to look outside your immediate pool.
Secondly, where else do you meet Christians these days?
And I can’t remember the last time I’ve donned a neon wristband.
Despite all this, here I am, sipping an expensive cocktail amid a sea of young Jews schmoozing around a dance floor.
Twenty- and thirty-somethings are still out there looking for their perfect mate. If I find out that you are single, I begin the interrogation: What are you looking for — kids, no kids, city, country, age, religion, interests? Everyone needs love, so I assume everyone also wants to meet that perfect match. He may not like his wife, he may not even love his wife, but he definitely respects his wife.
I suppose I brought this on myself – after all, I met the Public Praying Man (as he shall henceforth be known) on a Christian dating site. Firstly, because my Christian faith is important to me, and I would ideally like to share that with the guy I end up with.
Before I've had a chance to utter the words: “Don't, please, just…don't,” he has already placed a firm hand on my arm, bowed his head and proceeded to launch into saying grace, audibly enough that several other tables in the joint have turned to stare in bemusement.
We have also noticed that the issues of dating resurface frequently in middle age, because so many people are either divorced or widowed. The key is to maintain hope: I’ll check in tonight on JDate; maybe Mr. If I know someone who might be right, I ask only one thing of each person in the match — they have to agree to go out on a second date.
There may be a lot more baggage at that stage, and many more complexities, but whether we are twenty-four or fifty-four, we still have the same feelings of anxiety and rejection: Is he or she out there? I read that someplace in a magazine and I thought it was a great rule; it takes all the pressure off the first date. Jill’s philosophy on matchmaking I take matchmaking very seriously. I truly believe that God will give me credit for this one day, and I love to get credit!