My girlfriend is coming over.” Let him live in his own filth, or clean it up!? This kind of big favor is okay occasionally, but if your guy asks it of you on a regular basis, you’re being taken advantage of. You’re not your boyfriend’s cab driver; you’re his girlfriend.
How long has it been since your guy helped you achieve your peak in bed? Don’t make excuses to your friends for your guy when he acts antisocial. It’s that maternal instinct popping up: you see a helpless guy, stumbling around barely able to talk and you say, “I can help you! ” Or, perhaps you don’t think it’s “ladylike” of you to get drunk in front of your guy, so you always DD. Even though you’re a vegetarian, you make steak for your guy every time he comes over (which is a lot) and then on the side make yourself a vegetarian meal.
Admit it: you probably spend most of your energy in your relationship making sure you’re not the quintessential girlfriend described in every men’s magazine article.
But the truth is we can get so caught up in trying to not be a certain way that we can’t act natural!
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Experiences with insecure men The first time I ever dated an insecure guy was almost a decade ago.
It is, at times, an incomprehensible thought that reverberates in our minds and the answer to which seems to be virtually unknown.
Females crave to be treated with respect and kindness and claim to want the quintessential “nice guy,” a man with good morals and superb tact who regards others with the utmost of respect.
At first, he may be quiet and always ready to give you advice when you need it.
But for the life of me, some of you guys pick the worst vaginas ever to lock it up with, and I can't understand why. These women are like their own personal cottage industry. I was always the girl the boys brought out because I just could hang. That your friends like, that your friends can talk to, respect and laugh with. But she is marrying HER best friend as well (not me, tragically ha). They are the couple who you know didn't just meet at a bar or go on a date. And they've cared for one another long before there was nakedness and intimacy. The one who was there before the drunk sex or the "she's so hot" or the awkward "should I text her? You have to know that the girl you are gonna be with, maybe even marry, was there before she really had a reason to BE there (relationship wise).
Hell, I call my guy friends when I need a heart to heart or a pick me up after a dude turns into a total butthead. I've heard horror stories about women who hours after saying I do, are going off the paranoia deep end accusing their husband of hitting on bridesmaids, or getting angry over Maxim Magazine subscriptions, or spending their husband's money on things like bags shoes and clothes at rates that made the dudes from "Wolf of Wall Street" look frugal. Just don't be the guy who, once the real girl comes out, goes into denial that the level of normalcy she presented pre-ring was as real as that pair of fake boobs you bought her. Don't Date Chicks That Can't Hang I'm a dude's girl. I scream at my TV during playoffs, I talk about baseball and hockey, my guy friends talk about blow jobs and farts around me, I take shots and I dance awkwardly. She doesn't need to drink beer or be a bro, but you know that scene in "My Best Friend's Wedding" where Cameron Diaz's character is uncomfortable at the karaoke bar, and then all of a sudden she sings a song so badly but everyone cheers and she gets so into it and has the most fun ever? Date a girl who doesn't get mad if you want to go have a couple beers with the guys, date a girl who has herself together enough to not feel slighted if it's boys night out, and date a girl who is cool enough that hey, you COULD bring her to dude's night out! Date Your Friend My best friend Christine is getting married this September. If she and I ever got married, "Absolutely (Story of a Girl)" by Nine Days would be our wedding song. And when graduation rolled around, and New York City and finance came calling, I will never forget sitting down with her in Union Square when she said "I have to tell you something. It's Dave." Several years later, I don't think I remember Christine without Dave anymore. But they're still just the buds you hang out with as a group because they don't pull the lame couple shit that makes you never want to hang with couples.
The guys with a lot of gel in their hair who are pretty good looking who probably rowed crew at Harvard, work at Barclays and still brag about it when they're 30. And I'm not talking about the nice girls who look like something out of "People of Walmart." I'm talking about the good girls who people look at and say, "Jesus, why are they single? Lots of not-so-attractive guys in suits making out with and paying for women who if you took off their makeup and took out their hair extensions, would look like that meth head who actually signed the release to be shown on the show "Cops." Women who use anyone for money? I have never in my life asked a guy to pay for anything. But when you're hooked up to a girl whose only quality is her looks -- no substance, ambition or depth -- who is hoping to use your name to parlay their C-list looks into an MTV or Oxygen show, or some kind of gig where their boobs and butt make them 'good at it, you know you're screwed because they really have no other life skills and can't sustain their clothes shopping habit on a 35K a year salary as an office manager. Don't discount your friends as being the girl who deserves the love.
Those guys who think treating people with respect or some semblance of humanity makes them look weak.